Thousands of seminars with men, women, business owners, and I hear the same issue: Why do women always win an argument?
Many times, men complain that women will:
• Hold a grudge
• Bring up an issue at the wrong time
• Complain about something from six months ago
• Cry for no reason or to manipulate
Women complain:
• Men yell for effect
• Express anger by slamming door or throwing objects
• Purposely avoid the main topic
• Blame
Experience tells us that we often communicate differently at home than at work. Would you actually throw an object at a spouse or family member? How often do you berate family members in front of other people, yet at work it may be a regular event?
Has crying been used to manipulate an issue at work?

The truth is all of the above may be true. Reality says we can communicate better. The issue “winning” in a argument needs to be defined. Our goal is that through collaboration both sides can mutually agree.

TRENDS:

Men use logic to process information. Men also believe that once a a discussion has closed or finished, the issue is completed. Men prefer to move on, and the issue need not be brought up again.

Women may nod in agreement, while disagreeing with the verbal outcome. Women will use intuition and feeling to resolve an issue. When an issue is not resolved, women may wait weeks or months to re-address the issue.

SOLUTIONS:
• Collaborate rather than compromise on hot button issues
• Use “I” statements when speaking up
• Identify emotions of both people rather than try logic in conflict
• Agree to resolve issues within 24-48 hours of a disagreement
• Agree to not demean or berate each other
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