A typical conversation:
Him: ” Honey, this year I am going for it! You have inspired me! I am going to lose weight and exercise regularly”
Her: “That’s great. I am so proud of you. I can already see you thinner!”
Christmas Eve: “Let’s enjoy tonight. I’ll get started directly after New Years.” “Your right. This is not the week to start. Let’s enjoy the week of family and parties.”

Have you ever started the holidays like this? How many times have you set admirable goals, gotten excited by the goals or goals and fallen short? Take a look at the most popular New years Resolutions:

1) Spend more time with family and friends
2) Exercise more to be fit
3) Lose the bulge
4) Quit smoking
5) Quit drinking
6) Get out of debt
7) Learn something new
Help others
9) Enjoy life more
10) Get organized

So, of the above, how many have you tried? What has been your past success? How long do you commit? Is there a difference between how men and women approach goal setting? Most people follow through with New Years goals for five days. (5 days)

Why New Years resolutions fail:

Have you heard of the phrase practice makes perfect? If you have not lost weight consistently, or stopped smoking before, for longer than six months? If you do not have a past history of success with changing habits, New Years resolutions are doomed for failure. How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. When anyone sets goals without a past history, it is unrealistic to have success. Also, once we make a mistake, we beat ourselves up and over eat, over drink, over smoke.

How to have success with New Years or any type of goal:

To be your best, to accomplish success, try the tried and true basics. Do not try and reinvent the wheel. Whatever your goal is, set DAILY goals. Just eat well or not smoke for one day. Then two days. After five days, your chances of success go up 50%. Many of you are human, so, you might fall back. It’s okay. Here is where blame, guilt and arguments start. If you blow it, START OVER. Just start over. A great template:

1) Write down your goals
2) Track them
3) Start day to day
4) Put a week of success together
5) Find a way to have enjoyment of fun with your daily successes
6) Get a support person to talk with
7) Avoid the beat up/guilt trip

For more help, or just to have fun, call in, or e-mail in: Monday December 21, 2009 6PM PST with Karen Marzo and Dr. Brian Grossman

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